Okay, trying to do the maths… barring illness or accidental death “old-age” seems to take most between 80 to 100 years old. Hmmmm.. so by any calculation, I must be in “mid-life” or quickly approaching it! Tres interesante (I don’t know how to add the accents lol). Does this explain my recent quest to find myself? Does it explain the recent bouts of “unsettled” feelings and perhaps a tinge of discontent?
When we hear the term “mid-life crises” we immediately think of a man having an affair or going out to buy a race car (knowing full well he can’t even manage either one). But what do women do in their “mid-life crises”? Or are we way too level-headed to experience them… LOL… perhaps not. Perhaps we have our own ways of going out there and “trying to get out groove back” like Stella did with her hottt young fella. And no, I am not flying off to Jamaica, but I do acknowledge that as I reach this stage, it has certainly become a time of deep reflection; and has caused me try to decipher “Am I on track?” ” What is the right track for me?” Thus my January blog “Finding Dawn”.
I have made some progress on my journey to self-discovery but I have still a ways to go. I just read an interesting article posted on the Guardian Facebook (have a read): TOP FIVE REGRETS OF THE DYING
A good read and certainly food for thought. Personally, I can already identify with some of those regrets (specifically the being true to yourself and having the courage to express your feelings).Not to be morbid… but I am sure none of us would like to reach our death bed and be filled with regret as we have one last thought of the things we did or didn’t do. I for one would like to know that I have made some valiant attempt to reach for and live the abundant life that Christ died for me to have.
So, and I am speaking to all of us today, not just the forties crowd. Because truth be told none of us knows when we have reached ‘Mid-Life’ because none of us knows when we are going to die. So if you are experiencing your own contemplative moments, and you are re-evaluating your life and its divine purpose. Perhaps you are thinking:
- Did I choose the right field? Am I in the right career?
- Am I doing what God has called me to do?
- Did I make the right choices in my 20s and 30s?
- Should I have married? Did I marry the right person?
- Should I have had kids? Is it too late?
- Dare I make a bold middle-of-life about turn?
Don’t think of it as mid-life crises, please! Think of it as an opportunity to finally figure some stuff out. If you are feeling “antsty” THINK BEFORE YOU ACT! Because might I suggest that a new car, closet full of shoes, trip to an exotic location or torrid affair will not help us to recapture our youth and make the second half any better. They will certainly bring a few moments, even months of thrills, BUT they will never satisfy an empty void of ‘unfulfillment’ or take the place of God-ordained task(s) yet to be accomplished.
If you are a Christ child, your steps are ordered and He is with you always, so really there are no crises. Instead, think of it as an opportunity for a Fresh Start, a Resurrection, Restoration, think of it as a Second Chance! Spend some quiet moments in thought and prayer, invite God in and pray for wisdom.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” James 1:5
This may be your second chance (or third or fourth) to change your life forever! To make a significant difference for yourself and the world! This “mid-life” season may be your chance to change some things and ensure that when you leave this world, you leave it a better place and you leave fulfilled, happy and without regret!
‘approaching’ mid-life 🙂 Coach D